故事:孩子总是没主见我是一个4岁9个月男孩的妈妈,有个关于孩子性格的问题一直困扰着我:我的孩子没有主见,总是看大人的脸色行事,为了讨好别人而委屈自己。坦白地说,我的性格也是如此,十分在乎别人的看法,孩子的性格有遗传的因素。因为深深地体会到这种性格带来的痛苦,所以想要我的孩子改变这种性格。在日常生活中尽量听取孩子的意见,比如讲故事时让他自己选择故事书;买东西时让他挑选,按他的意见买;吃东西、做游戏、出去玩时都征求他的意见,只要能做到就按他的要求去做。可我发现还是不能改变,他总是说:“妈妈喜欢我就喜欢。”“你说怎么着就怎么着。”我觉得他这个年龄是性格形成的关键时期,所以想请你们帮忙,告诉我应该怎样做才能改变孩子这样的性格?一位焦急的妈妈 Story: Children always say no I am a 4-year-old boy of 9 months, a child’s personality has been bothering me with my personality: my child is not assertive, always look adults act in order to please others grievance Myself. Frankly, my character is also true, very much care about others’ opinions, the child’s personality has genetic factors. Because I deeply feel the pain of this character, so I want my child to change this character. Try to listen to your child’s opinions in your daily life, such as letting him choose a storybook when you tell a story, letting him choose something to buy, buying on his advice, eating something, playing games, soliciting his opinions when he goes out to play Can do it according to his request. But I found that still can not be changed, he always said: “I like my mother like. ” “What do you say about how. ” I think he is the age of the critical period of character formation, so I would like to ask you to help, Tell me what to do to change my child’s character? An anxious mother