有这么一则故事：一位婚后不久的女子，每次回到娘家总爱在父母面前诉说丈夫的不是，历数他的缺点。父亲听了不以为然，他拿出一张白纸，在上面画了一个黑点，然后问女儿：“你看上面有什么？”女儿不假思索地说：“黑点。”父亲再问，女儿仍然说：“只有黑点啊。”父亲说道： There is such a story: a woman soon after marriage, every time her mother came back to her parents always tell her husband is not, calendar of his shortcomings. After listening to his father’s displeasure, he took a piece of white paper and drew a black dot on it, then asked her daughter, “What do you think about it?” The daughter said without thinking: “The black spot.” Father asked again, and the daughter still said : “Only black spots.” My father said: