很多已婚女人,喜欢把传统等同于尊严和高尚,甚至还把婚内的开放论定为放荡和没有自我。其实,婚姻本来就没绝对的传统和开放,只要对方认可,只要婚姻需要,只要是对两人感情有积极意义的,双方都可以尝试着改变自己,作出必要的努力和迎合,掌握好一定的弹性和度,谈不上伤自尊的问题。你聪明会有人说你心机重,你努力会有人说你运气好,你天生乐观有人会说你虚情假意。有时候,你明明就是一杯白水, Many married women like to equate their traditions with dignity and nobleness. They even define open-ended marriage as debauchery and lack of self. In fact, the marriage has no absolute tradition and openness. As long as the marriage is approved, as long as the marriage has a positive meaning to the two people, both parties can try to change themselves and make the necessary efforts to meet and master the necessary Resilience and degree, not to mention injury self-esteem problems. Someone who says you are clever will say that you are clever. You will try hard to say that you are lucky. You are naturally optimistic that someone will say you are hypocritical. Sometimes you obviously have a glass of white water,