我们一直倡导赏识教育,但同时不应忽视“惩罚”在教育中的积极作用。中国青少年研究中心主任孙云晓认为,没有惩罚的教育是不完整的教育。巧妙而艺术地运用惩罚,与有效的赏识教育一样,可以起到事半功倍的教育效果。但家长们要特别注意的是,惩罚的方式不同,效果也迥异。另外,惩罚不等于体罚,更不是肉体伤害或精神虐待。有些父母,孩子有点过错便不问青红皂白一顿暴打,或者劈头盖脸一顿臭骂;还有些家长,虽然没有高举棍棒,但对孩子威胁恐吓、讽刺挖苦,连带翻旧账,说重一点就是对孩子心灵施暴。这些错误的惩罚方式,不仅会伤害孩子的自尊、自信,而且与我们的教育初衷背道而驰。因此,惩罚作为一种教育手段,必须恰当、合理、有效。那么,怎样科学、理性地运用“惩罚教育”呢?希望本期的采访能给你启发和帮助。 We have always advocated appreciating education, but at the same time, we should not neglect the positive role of “punishment” in education. Sun Yunxiao, director of China Youth Research Center, believes that education without punishment is incomplete education. Clever and artistic use of punishment, and effective appreciation of education, can play a multiplier effect of education. However, parents should pay particular attention to the different ways of punishment and the different effects. In addition, punishment does not amount to corporal punishment, nor is it physical injury or mental abuse. Some parents and children do not ask indiscriminate beatings or bullying; some parents, though not holding high their sticks, are threatening and intimidating their children with sarcasm and sneaking up their old accounts. . These wrong ways of punishment will not only hurt children’s self-esteem, self-confidence, but also run counter to the original intention of our education. Therefore, punishment as an educational tool must be appropriate, reasonable and effective. So, how to use “punishment education” scientifically and rationally? I hope this interview will give you inspiration and help.