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随着时代的发展,以全家人共同参与教育为特征的“联合家教”为越来越多的家庭所认同。然而,在这种联合家教过程中,父亲与母亲,分别应该扮演什么样的角色,这是很值得研究的。综观眼下众多的家庭,我们会发现一个有趣的“分工”现象,即父亲与母亲,在孩子面前常常扮演两个截然相反的“脸谱”:一个演“红脸”,负责从严管教、规范孩子的言行,具体实施处罚,以树立威信,让孩子害怕;另一个则唱“白脸”,负责周旋调停,中介说情,让孩子感到家的安全、温馨和亲情。现实生活中,这种“分工”可能是故意而为,也有可能是在潜意识中自然而然形成的。殊不知,这种家教分工并不科学,往往利少弊多:
With the development of the times, “united tutoring” featuring the whole family’s participation in education has been accepted by more and more families. However, what kind of roles should be played by fathers and mothers in this joint tutoring process is worth studying. Looking at the many families nowadays, we find an interesting “division of labor” phenomenon, in which fathers and mothers often play two opposite “Facebook” forms in front of their children: a “red face” who is responsible for disciplining and regulating children Words and deeds, the specific implementation of punishment, in order to establish prestige, so that children scared; the other is singing “white face”, responsible for mediation mediation, intermediaries flirt, let the children feel at home safe, warm and affection. In real life, this kind of “division of labor” may be done intentionally, or it may be spontaneously formed in the subconscious. As everyone knows, this division of labor between home and education is not scientific, often less benefit and more: