本文从学生对于母子冲突事件问题的回答中,窥探学生的怪异言谈的深层心理因素以及此种因素形成的社会背景,从而得出应该给孩子适合的教育的结论,包括适合的学校教育和家庭教育,选择时教育理念或者说思维方式至关重要,家长提高自身综合素质,身教重于言教是给予适合教育的根本。 This paper draws conclusions from the students ’answers to the questions about the conflict between mother and child, peeping at the deep psychology of students’ weird speech and the social background formed by such factors, and concludes the appropriate education for children, including suitable school education and family education , Choice of educational philosophy or way of thinking is essential, parents improve their overall quality, teaching is more important than education is to give appropriate education.