我国民间向来有“人前训子,人后教妻”的说法。意思是,作为一家之主者,对孩子、老婆身上的缺点和过失须批评规劝,但应区别对待。孩子是蒙童小儿。无所谓面子不面子,不妨当着邻居四众“现开销”;而老婆是大人,得给她留个面子,宜乎关起门来劝其改过迁 China’s civil society has always been “pre-humanity training, after teaching wife” argument. This means that as the masters of the family, criticize the shortcomings and mistakes of children and wives, but they should be treated differently. Children are children Tong children. Does not matter face does not face, may wish to be in front of four neighbors, “is spending”; and his wife is an adult, had to give her a face, it is appropriate to close the door to persuade them to relocate