几乎每个人每天都受到这个“动力”的测试——无论是在面对面的沟通中、在打电话交流时,还是在用电子邮件交流时。或许我们当时没有意识到,但是我们绝大多数人似乎都持续地感到需要保证自己是对的——不仅自己是对的,而且要证明对方是错的。我们的“自我”便是罪魁祸首——我们的生活以自我为导向,“一切以我为主”。这就是为什么我们的反应总是要去对抗并将对方放倒——我们要感到“我”是安全的,于是那种担心失去“自我” Almost everyone is tested daily with this “power” - whether in face-to-face communication, when talking on the phone, or when using e-mail. Perhaps we were not aware of it at that time, but most of us seem to have continually felt the need to ensure that we are right - not only ourselves, but also to prove that the other is wrong. Our “self ” is the culprit - our life is self-oriented, “everything is based on me ”. That is why our response is always to fight and topple the other - we have to feel that “I” is safe, so the fear of losing “self”