随着儿子日渐长大,身为人父的我愈发感到当好“家长”的角色真是“看似容易却艰辛”。也是应了那句“玉不琢,不成器”的古训,由于我们疏于引导,儿子不知从何时起沾染上了上课不认真听讲,作业不能按时完成,在爷爷奶奶面前任性蛮横等坏毛病。我和妻子得知这些内情后,急得内心上火。可两人都非专业教育工作者,在“科学育儿”方面毫无经验,气急之下便采取了“大棒加胡萝卜”的政策:儿子表现不好时,先是一番责骂,严重点再予以“专政”教育:成绩若有些提高或有段时间没犯错误,立马兑现吃“肯德基”,买电动玩具等奖励。没过多久,我和妻子发现这个方法终非良策。一是当我们认 As my son grew older, as a father I became more and more aware of the role of “parent” really “seemingly easy but arduous.” Because of our neglect of guidance, my son did not know when it was contaminated and did not listen attentively to his class. His homework could not be completed on time, and he was unruly in front of his grandparents. My wife and I learned of these facts, anxious heart fire. Both non-professional educators, inexperienced in “scientific childcare”, took the “big stick plus carrot” policy in an impatient manner: when the son did not do well, he first scolded him and seriously “Dictatorship” education: if scores improve or for some time did not make mistakes, immediately cashed eat “KFC”, buy electric toys and other incentives. It did not take long for my wife and I found that this method was not a good policy. First, when we recognize