在班级管理和课堂教学中,每个老师都希望班级能够平稳,课堂能够有效,希望学生能够拥有良好的学业、灿烂的未来。所以我们竭尽所能,用规则,用奖惩,或激励,或约束,但是往往未必够得到学生正面的回应,有的甚至酿成了师生冲突。在问题背后显现出一个事实——关系大于教育。关系在这里不是指过度亲密的、过度依恋的纠缠,而是人与人相对自由,相互尊重。顾明远说,“好的师生关系是最大的教育力量。”这个,也可以推广到 In class management and classroom teaching, each teacher hopes that the class will be stable and the class will be effective. I hope that students will have a good academic career and a bright future. Therefore, we try our best to use rules, rewards and punishments, or incentives, or constraints, but it is often not enough to get a positive response from students, and some even lead to teacher-student conflict. Behind the problem is the fact that the relationship is greater than education. Relations here do not refer to over-intimate, excessively attachment-related entanglement, but rather to people’s relative freedom and mutual respect. Gu Mingyuan said, “A good teacher-student relationship is the biggest educational force.” This can also be extended to