家长在处理与孩子的关系时,最重要的一点是避免冲突。如果关系紧张,父母和孩子的每次争吵都会伤害彼此的感情。与孩子争吵是父母最头痛的事,虽然孩子受到过尊敬长辈的教育,但随着社会的发展,现今的孩子独立性和自我性都比较强, 在家庭和社会中发表自己意见的机会也比以前多很多,这就意味着他们不会轻易放弃自己的想法。当孩子的想法和家长的想法发生矛盾时,如处理得不好,很有可能会引起“家庭大战”。 When parents deal with their children, the most important point is to avoid conflict. If the relationship is tense, each quarrel between parents and children hurts each other’s feelings. Quarrel with their children is the most troubling thing for their parents. Although their children are highly educated by their elders, as the society develops, the children today are more independent and self-motivated, and their chances of expressing their opinions in the family and in society are more Much more before, which means they will not easily give up their own ideas. When the children’s ideas and parents have conflicting ideas, if not properly handled, it is likely to cause “family warfare.”