每个健康的青少年最强烈的渴望之一是希望自己归属于另一个人或一个群体,归属感能使孩子形成另一种感觉——安全感。青少年总是无意识地选择试图借以达到自己的目的“方法”。这种“方法”似乎渐渐成为他们的行为方式以及某种程度上的迫切要求。而青少年的人生观并没有完全形成,加上社会的复杂性,使他们的行为会发生偏差。Jody Lissmonteleone认为“十几岁的青少年阶段比任何其它年龄阶段都难度过。”他在加利福尼亚圣克罗拉多高中设立了一套制度以帮助学生们克服来自同龄人的负面影响。“因为对他们来说,选择与责任早早就来到了,许多孩子找到了错误的自尊和爱情。” One of the strongest desires of every healthy teen is their desire to belong to another person or group of people. The sense of belonging can give the child another sense of security. Adolescents always unconsciously choose “ways” to try to achieve their goals. This “method” seems to be gradually becoming their method of behavior and to some extent an urgent requirement. However, the adolescent outlook on life is not completely formed. Coupled with the complexity of society, their behavior will deviate. Jody Lissmonteleone believes that “the teenage years are harder than any other age.” He set up a system at Santa Croce High School in California to help students overcome the negative effects of their peers. “Because for them, choice and responsibility came early, and many children found the wrong self-esteem and love.”