许多家长朋友跟我说:孩子决定着家庭的气氛,孩子争气,家长就没有什么大的烦恼,就算自己在工作中有些不愉快,但争气的孩子会给家长带来心灵的慰藉;如果孩子不争气,家长就不会有好日子,好心情,心里总有阴影掠过的感觉。是啊!我们中国人将孩子视为自己生命的延续,事业成功的家长希望子承父业;事业不成功的家长则将孩子视为自己的圆梦人。但这只是家长的一相情愿,家长忽略了孩子同我们一样具有独立人格,他们有选择自己生活的权利。所以家长应该给孩子充分的尊重,应培养他们的责任感,让他们对自己的行为负责,对自己的生命负责,让他们成为自己生命的主人。刘艳兰女士和她的爱人对孩子可谓费尽心思。为了给李涛一个良好的生活环境,他们严格要求自己,规范着自己的言行,这的确是很正确的教育方法,效果也不错。但在李涛升 Many parents and friends told me: children determine the family atmosphere, the children live up to expectations, there is no big worry parents, even if some unpleasant at work, but the angry children will bring spiritual comfort to parents; if the children do not live up to expectations , Parents will not have a good life, a good mood, my heart always shaded feeling. Yes, we in China regard children as the continuation of their own lives, successful parents hope that they inherit their fathers, and unsuccessful parents regard children as their dreams. However, this is only a parent’s willingness to pay. Parents neglect that children have the same independent personality as us and that they have the right to choose their own lives. Therefore, parents should give their children full respect, should develop their sense of responsibility, let them be responsible for their actions, be responsible for their own lives and make them the masters of their own lives. Ms. Liu Yanlan and her lover can be as hard-working children. In order to give Li Tao a good living environment, they strictly require themselves to regulate their own words and deeds, which is indeed a very correct method of education, the effect is not bad. But in Li Tao Sheng