根据大量的心理调查我们发现,对一个人的言行公开表示异议(态度冷淡、不尽赞同、全盘否定),比公开表示赞同和夸奖,更能引起对方的注意和情绪震动。许多人在遭异议后,往往自觉不自觉地开始注意、搜寻有关的证据,重新对自己的言行作某种审度,判断他人异议的正误。这种很自然地产生的内心意向,我们称之为遭异议时的“寻证心理”。人们在 According to a large number of psychological surveys, we find it open to objections (indifference, disagreement, and overall negation) to one’s decency and decency than the public’s approval and compliment, which can more arouse the attention and emotional turmoil of each other. After being dissent, many people often consciously or unconsciously start to pay attention to searching relevant evidence, re-examining their own words and deeds, and judging the right and wrong of others. This kind of spontaneous inner intention, which we call the “questing psychology” when it was dissenting. People are here