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不少孩子都有这样的看法:“每当我和爸爸的意见不一致时,他都以势压人,不让我说话,有的批评根本不是那么回事。”家长们也大惑不解:我们真心实意地为了孩子。可怎么会出现这样关系搞得很紧张的结果?其实,问题还是出在家长身上。家长不允许孩子发表自己的意见,也不调查问题的来龙去脉,而是一味地大发脾气。不少家长认为既然是教育,就必须采取训导的方式,于是批评、指责、规劝整日不断。家长的刻板、乏味、重复的说教模式,根本不给孩子思考和理解的时间,也不让孩子发表自己的意见。这种教育
Many children have this view: “Whenever I and my father’s opinion is inconsistent, he is under pressure to prevent me from speaking, and some criticisms are not the case.” Parents are puzzled: We sincerely for the children. How could such a relationship be so tense? In fact, the problem still lies with parents. Parents do not allow children to express their opinions, nor investigate the ins and outs of the problem, but blindly throw tantrums. Many parents think that since they are educated, they must take a disciplinary approach. They criticize, criticize and persuade people to keep going day to day. Parents, stereotyped, boring, repeated preaching mode, do not give children time to think and understand, nor let the children express their opinions. This education