我看到许多女生,恋爱之前有着雄心勃勃的追求,言谈举止大方大气,各种能力不让须眉。恋爱后我却只看到一个男生背后亦步亦趋的小女生,三句话就是她男朋友,今后的整个人生都提前绕着他打转。也许你会说,女人应该示弱,太过强势,男生会敬而远之。我想反驳的是,示弱的前提是你本来强大,而不是在恋爱的温室中煮青蛙一样越来越依赖。你不是金丝笼里的小鸟,到要飞的时候却发现自己已经不适 I saw many girls who had an ambitious pursuit before falling in love, generous speech and demeanor, and various abilities. After I fell in love, I only saw a little girl behind the boys. Her words were her boyfriend in the next three sentences. The whole life ahead of him would revolve around him in advance. You may say, women should show weakness, too strong, boys will be at arm’s length. What I would like to refute is that the precondition for showing weakness is that you are stronger than you are, and you are more and more dependent on cooking frogs in the greenhouses of love. You are not a bird in a cage, but you find yourself in discomfort by the time you fly