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从社会的角度讲,大概没有人愿意饱尝生活的愁苦艰辛,没有人愿意遭受一连串的失败。因为人生事业的失败也就是表示一个人的声名地位的丧失,这会叫人在社会上活不下去。但从心理学角度讲,失败未必不是好事,对于当事人,失败也是一种心理体验,由这种心理体验换来的经验和智慧,是一辈子循规蹈矩、平平安安的社会模范公民所很难具备的。唯有经历磨难、经过多方面的心理体验的人,也才会对人有更深更洞烛幽微更开阔的理解,更辽远的精神世界,更大的心灵容量和更宽容。这叫我想起狄更斯小说。狄更斯写在十九世纪四十年代以后的小说里常常暗示出这样的思想:为富不仁的有产者必须经过破产或其他磨难,接受感情的教育,才能真正懂得“仁爱”与“谅解”。年轻的马丁
From a social point of view, probably no one is willing to fully enjoy the hardships of life, no one is willing to suffer a series of failures. Because the failure of life career means the loss of a person’s prestige status, this will make people unable to survive in society. However, from a psychological point of view, the failure is not necessarily not a good thing. For the parties, failure is also a kind of psychological experience. The experience and wisdom exchanged from this kind of psychological experience are hard to come by for the model citizens of our society who are behaved in a fair and peaceful manner. Only those who experience suffering and undergo various psychological experiences can have a deeper and more profound understanding of people, a more spiritual world, greater spiritual capacity and greater tolerance. This reminds me of Dickens novels. In his novels since the 1840s, Dickens often suggests the idea that the benevolent benefactors must truly understand “benevolence” and “understanding” through bankruptcy or other hardship and emotional education. Young Martin