经常有读者朋友来信来电说,自己的孩子性格有点要强,不管干什么都想赢,都必须赢,如果输了,就会情绪低落,好几天缓不过劲儿来。孩子情绪低落,其实是“输不起”的表现。面对“输不起”的孩子,父母需要费点心思,让他们体会做每件事所带来的各种情感经验,帮助他们坦然面对得失。一是注意保护孩子自尊,不当众批评孩子。对于大多数孩子而言,怕输是缘于过于害怕自尊受到伤害。而维护孩子的自尊则要求家长能细心地观察孩子的进步,在日常活动中肯定他们的闪光 There are often letters from readers saying that their children are a little bit stronger and want to win no matter what they want to win. If they lose, they will feel depressed and will not be able to do so for a few days. Child depression, in fact, “lose ” performance. In the face of “lose ” children, parents need a little thought, let them experience doing all the emotional experience of doing everything to help them calmly face the pros and cons. First, pay attention to protecting children’s self-esteem, not criticize the children in public. For most children, fear of losing is due to too much fear of hurting self-esteem. While maintaining the child’s self-esteem requires parents to carefully observe the child’s progress, in the daily activities to affirm their flash