【案例】小薇是一名中学生,学习成绩比较稳定,排在全班的前几名,在班里担任班长,和同学的关系也不错。周围所有的人提到小薇,都觉得她是个好学生、好孩子。不少家长经常到小薇家,向她父母请教怎样才能培养出优秀的孩子,但是小薇却觉得自己活得太累了。很小的时候,妈妈就常给小薇讲各种名人小时候的故事,并逐渐用其中的标准来要求她。比如亲戚的孩子来家里作客,小薇必须要拿出自己心爱的玩具和他们分享。如果客人喜欢小薇的玩具,不管小薇愿不愿意,都要送给他们。在旁人看来,小薇非常礼让,其实小薇内心深处很不情愿。上 【Case】 Xiaowei is a middle school student. She has relatively stable academic performance and is ranked in the top few of the class. She is also a squad leader in class and has a good relationship with classmates. All the people around her mentioned Xiao Wei, who felt she was a good student and a good boy. Many parents often come to Xiao Wei’s home to ask her parents how they can cultivate excellent children, but Xiao Wei feels that she is living too tired. At a very young age, my mother used to tell Xiaowei the story of various celebrities when she was a child, and gradually used her standards to ask her. For example, a relative’s children come to visit at home and Xiaowei must share their favorite toys with them. If guests like Xiaowei’s toys, whether Xiaowei is willing or not, they must give it to them. In the eyes of others, Xiaowei is very courteous. In fact, Xiaowei is very reluctant inside. on