一、滚雪球式地扩大事态。最爱滚雪球的人总是遵照一条简单的规则行事:如果错过了解决问题的时机,索性再往后拖拖。比如在婚姻关系中,把愤怒和苦恼埋在心底几个月甚至几年,积聚起的压力足以拆散本来美满的婚姻。二、反其道而行之。爱把别人的问题揽到自己身上,自怨自艾地假想某个人不喜欢你,然后就把责任归于自己,要不了多久就会忧郁成疾。 First, snowball to expand the situation. People who love snowballs always follow a simple rule: If you miss out on the timing of the problem, drag it further. For example, in the marriage, the anger and distress buried in my heart a few months or even years, the pressure accumulated enough to break up the original happy marriage. Second, the opposite. Love embraces the problems of others, self-pompously supposes that someone does not like you, and then puts the blame on yourself, or sooner or later it will become gloomy.