纳西女在少女时期和主妇时期的生活反差是很大的。做少女时,她尽可像鸟儿一样自由自在地生活,无拘无束地享受欢乐,与伙伴们一起嬉耍,甚至和心上人约会,但是婚后这样的日子不复出现了,她们将背负起家庭的重担,为之奉献一切,如果一个已婚的纳西女在感情上做了出格的事,她必不被社区的礼法所容。这一过程的致命之处在于,父母是婚姻媒妁的决定者,也许一个纳西女尚未出世,她的婚姻生活就已被注定了。嫁接自儒文化的包办婚姻样态同纳西女对爱情的忠贞不渝之间发生了剧烈的冲突,冲突结果是殉情现象的大量发生。当然在今天,随着现代爱情和婚姻观念的渗入,这一殉情事件已经极少发生了。 Naxi women in girls and housewives during contrast of life is great. When she was a girl, she could live freely and freely like a bird, enjoying her unrestrained joy, playing with her companions and even dating her sweetheart, but such days of marriage no longer existed. They would take up the family Heavy burden, dedication, if a married Naxi girl in emotionally done something special, she will not be community etiquette. The fatal part of this process is that parents are the determinants of the marriage agency. Perhaps a Naxi girl has not yet been born and her marital life has been doomed. There was a violent conflict between Natai women’s loyalty to love inherited from Confucian culture and the result of the conflict was the mass occurrence of the phenomenon of martyrdom. Of course, today, with the infiltration of modern concepts of love and marriage, the incident has rarely occurred.