渴望完美,希望自己所爱的人拥有其他人的优点而摒弃其缺点,存在这样的想法,可以说是人之常情,尤其对于女人而言就更是如此。然而——恋爱和婚姻是不同的,有人容易将二者弄混。恋爱的时候,应该睁大双眼去找对方的毛病;结婚以后,则要学会睁一只眼,闭一只眼,不要太在意。如果能够这样做,也许现实情感婚姻生活中的许多问题就不会发生,人们会减少很多烦恼但实际上,能够 Desire for perfection, hope that the ones they love have the merit of others and discard their shortcomings. It is fair to say that such ideas exist, especially for women. However - love and marriage are different, and it is easy to confuse the two. When you are in love, you should open your eyes to each other’s problems; after marriage, you should learn to open one eye and close one eye, do not be too concerned about. If this can be done, perhaps many of the real emotional marriages will not happen and people will be less annoyed, but in fact,