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拒绝是一门艺术,不要随便地拒绝,不要无情地拒绝,不要傲慢地拒绝;要能委婉地拒绝,要有笑容地拒绝,要有代替地拒绝,要有出路地拒绝。有一个意志消沉的年轻人,去向一位禅师请教从痛苦中解脱的方法。禅师说,你自己去悟一下,便会明白了。一天以后,禅师问他是否有所悟,他摇头,禅师便举起戒尺打了他一下。第二天,禅师又问,年轻人仍然不知,禅师又用戒尺打了他一下。第三天,他再次向禅师表示没有收获,当禅师举起戒尺打过
Refuse is an art, do not refuse casually, do not refuse mercilessly, do not refuse arrogantly; be able to refuse politely, refuse with a smile, refuse instead and have a way to refuse. There is a young man of depression, to consult a Zen master from the pain relief methods. Zen Master said that you understand it yourself, you will understand. One day later, the Zen master asked him if he had any enlightenment. When he shook his head, the Zen master raised his pad and tapped him. The next day, Zen master asked, young people still do not know, Zen master hit him again with a tape measure. The third day, he once again said to the Zen Master did not gain, when the Zen Master raised his paddle