一位美国朋友,在中国做访问学者,与中国大学生朝夕相处一年。交流感受时,首先跟我大赞了中国学生求知欲强、对西方文化了解很多、英语基础好,但同时,关于中国年轻人,他也有很多难以理解的困惑。第一个困惑是,中国的女孩子好像不谈恋爱就直接结婚?美国朋友说,他见到的中国女大学生,学业大多非常出众,在对未来人生和事业的追求上也很独立,但唯独在恋爱结婚方面,显得比较胆小。父母会要求她们说“大学期 An American friend, a visiting scholar in China, spent a year with Chinese college students. In exchange, I firstly praised Chinese students for their curiosity, their knowledge of western culture and their good English. However, at the same time, they also have a lot of puzzling confusion about young people in China. The first confusion is that Chinese girls seem to marry directly without being in love. American friends said that the Chinese female university students he met saw that they were mostly outstanding at school and very independent in the pursuit of their future life and career, but only In marriage alone, it seems timid. Parents will ask them to say ”college term