日前,朋友携金发碧眼夫君自美回国探亲,她的美国丈夫对大陆一些父母养育孩子的方法颇为不解。他说,在美国父母着重于“教育”孩子,而中国的父母则着重于“养”孩子。笔者认真地观察了一番后,确有同感……美国孩子从小就生活在竞争激烈的制度下,父母则从小培养他们的动手能力、独立性格及竞争意识。美国的孩子在幼儿时期,父母就开始放手让他们在力所能及的范围内独立活动。一岁多点的孩子,基本上都自己吃饭。父母把孩子“绑”在高椅子上后,把食物放在他面前的小桌子上,让孩子自己动手去吃。如果孩子不想吃,父母决不喂,饿了,下一顿就会好好的吃了。绝对看不见父母端着饭碗追着孩子喂饭的情景。睡觉也是照样。很小的婴幼儿就独自睡在围有小栏杆的床 Recently, a friend carrying her blonde-haired husband returned home to visit the United States. Her American husband is quite puzzled by the way some parents raise children in mainland China. He said that in the United States, parents focus on “education” children, while Chinese parents focus on “raising” children. After I carefully observed a number of really feel the same ... ... American children grew up in a highly competitive system, parents grew up their hands-on ability, independent character and sense of competition. American children In early childhood, parents began to let them go their own way within the scope of independent activities. The one-year-old children, basically eat their own. After the parents “tied” the child to the high chair, put the food on the small table in front of him, and let the children eat by themselves. If the child does not want to eat, parents will not feed, hungry, the next meal will eat well. Absolutely can not see the parents carrying rice bowls chasing the child feeding scene. Sleeping is the same. Small infants and young children sleep alone in a small railing bed