问人们为什么感到孤独,倒有点象问怎样才能到达纽约。正如有许多条路可通往纽约,也有许多途径会导致孤独的体验。两个人可能感到同样地孤独,但造成他们的孤独的却是截然不同的突发性或触发性事件。长期孤独的人,或在很长一段时期内经常感到孤独的人发现,难于结交或维持亲密的朋友。很多人是害羞。他们缺乏自信,觉得与他人交往 Asking why people feel lonely is a bit like asking how to get to New York. Just as there are many routes to New York, there are many ways to lead to a lonely experience. Two people may feel equally lonely, but what sets them apart is a radically different sudden or triggered event. Long-term, lonely people, or those who often feel lonely for a long time, find it difficult to make or maintain close friends. Many people are shy. They lack confidence and feel engaged with others