美国的教育家爱雷·马洛尼提出:培养孩子的要诀之一,就是“及早让他们自立”,他说“过分的保护只会妨碍孩子从生活中通过自身实践去获取有效的教训,从而影响其尽快成长”。然而,现代家庭的“小太阳”式结构让孩子成为家庭的核心。祖辈或父母的溺爱,使孩子不具备最基本的独立生 According to Alec Maloney, an American educator, one of the keys to cultivating children is to “make them self-reliant as early as possible,” saying that “excessive protection will only hinder children from gaining effective lessons from their own lives through practice. Affect its growth as soon as possible. ” However, the “little sun” -like structure of the modern family makes children the center of the family. Spoiled by grandparents or parents, so that children do not have the most basic independent life