那天,女儿高兴地将一张90分的卷子摆在我面前。照例,我先是夸奖了女儿一番,但为了防止孩子出现骄傲的情绪,我又补充了一句说:“虽然你这次取得了不错的成绩,但也应该看到自己不足之处,比如这道题,如果能仔细一点,完全可以避免错误不丢分。”女儿听后,喜悦的心情一下子变得黯淡起来,她无奈地点点头说:“下次我一定注意。”每次教育孩子时,我总是喜欢先褒后贬,但我很快发现,这种教育方式并不好。不仅没能激发起孩子的上进心,反而挫伤了孩子的积极性。起初我并不了解个中原委,直到经历了一件小事,方才恍然大悟。 That day, my daughter was happy to put a 90-point exam paper in front of me. As usual, I first praise my daughter, but in order to prevent the child from feeling proud, I added: “Although you have achieved good results this time, you should also see your weaknesses, such as this Daoist, if we can be careful, can avoid mistakes do not drop points. ”“ After listening to the daughter, joy suddenly dimmed, she nodded reluctantly: ”next time I must pay attention. " Every time When I was teaching children, I always like to praise and derogate first, but I soon found out that this kind of education is not good. Not only failed to inspire the child’s ambition, but dampened the enthusiasm of the child. At first I did not understand the whole story until I experienced a trivial matter before I suddenly realized.