现在是权益意识发达的时代。不管是谁,为了满足自己的欲求,他们会主张所有对他们好的权益,对于会损害到自己权益的事,一件也不会做。在今日的社会,这种倾向越来越强。谋求自己的利益并不是件坏事,但是如果太利己主义,在人际关系的场合中一定会失败。本来,这种利己心理不论是谁都会有,但是如果我们能稍微地改变一下想法,不要光想着自己的利益,我们的人际关系就会更有改善。你帮别人获得利益,最后这个利益还是会由你获得。这种“先义后利”的观念,是想寻求完美人际关系的人所不可缺少的。在做事情之前,先想想别人的利益。要有服务别人的观念,等别人获得了利益之后,再谋求自己的利益。朋友之间最重要的是义气,如果能贯彻彼此的义气,就可使对方感受到你对他的服务精神,对方也会对你真心对待。在人际关系中,如果过分地计较得失,这段友谊一定不会长久持续。和一个 It is an era of well-developed rights and interests. No matter who they are, in order to satisfy their own desires, they will advocate all good rights and interests for them and will not do anything that would damage their own rights and interests. In today’s society, this tendency is getting stronger and stronger. Seeking your own benefit is not a bad thing, but if too egoistic, you will fail in situations of human relations. Originally, no one would have such an egoistic mentality, but if we can change our mind a little and do not think about our own interests, our relationships will improve even more. You help others get benefits, the last of this interest will still be you get. This concept of “righteousness and profit” is indispensable to those seeking perfect interpersonal relationships. Before you do something, think about the interests of others first. Have to serve the concept of others, and other people get the benefits, and then seek their own interests. Friends of the most important is the loyalty, if we can implement each other’s loyalty, you can make each other feel your service to him, the other will treat you sincerely. In the interpersonal relationship, if too much gains and losses, this friendship will not last long. and a