在人际交往中,一些人的请求、关怀、非你所愿。怎么办?断然拒绝,拂人家的好意,冷人家的心,自然有些不尽人情;如果违心地顺同,又让自己受窘,肿了自己的脸,也似不划算。所以在你真的陷入此境地时,便要学会委婉。当亚历山大大帝对犬儒派哲学家斯多葛欲施加恩惠,问斯多葛有何要求尽管提出来时,斯多葛不乏幽默且委婉的说:“请不要挡住我的阳光。”当时斯多葛正在晒太阳,他并不期求能得到亚历山大的恩惠。故而,他用智慧拒绝了大帝。有一人行将去世,一个贵人在他弥留之际喋喋不休,以表现他的关爱。当他问濒临死亡者还有什么要求时,走到生命尽头的人说:“希望能让我安安静静地离开人世。”这 In interpersonal communication, some people’s request, care, non-you want. How to do? Categorically refuse, whipped people’s kindness, cold people’s heart, naturally not full of humanity; if contrary to the same, let myself embarrassed, swollen his face, it seems not worthwhile. So when you really fall into this situation, you have to learn euphemism. When Alexander the Great cynic philosopher Stoics to impose grace, ask Stogge what asked, despite being made, Stoker with a sense of humor and euphemism, said: “Please do not block my sunshine.” At that time Stoic He is in the sun, he does not expect to get the favor of Alexander. Therefore, he rejected the Great by wisdom. One man and his wife are about to die, and an honored man chats after his death to show his love. When he asks what needs to be done on the verge of death, the person who reaches the end of his life says: “I hope I will be able to leave my life peacefully.”