编辑同志: 我是名高中教师,老伴是搞建筑的。退休前,各忙各的,没有多大分歧。退休后,问题就来了。我想把孙子接来养,老伴则希望让其父母带,或送幼儿园。我俩各不相让,经常为此争吵。我说他不近人情,不理解人;他说我不讲理,整天唠叨。时间长了,感情也越来越冷淡,有时甚至想到了离婚。我自己也纳闷,老夫老妻的怎么会这样? 沈阳 陆宇欣 陆女士: 从你的来信看,你和老伴之间有一定的冲突。老年夫妻之间的冲突主要表现在情感上。一种是正面冲突,态度粗暴、互不相让、针锋相对,甚至讽刺挖苦、摔家具。另一种是忽视对方,根本不把对方的意见当一回事。还有的 Edit comrades: I am a high school teacher, his wife is engaged in construction. Before retirement, each busy, not much difference. After retirement, the problem is coming. I want to pick up the grandson, my wife wants to bring their parents, or send kindergarten. We both do not give up and fight often. I say he is not human, do not understand people; he said I am unreasonable, nagging all day long. A long time, feelings are more and more cold, and sometimes even think of divorce. I myself also wondered how the old couple would do this? Shenyang Lu Yu Xin Lu: From your letter, there is a certain conflict between you and your wife. The conflict between elderly couples is mainly emotional. One is a positive conflict, a brutal attitude, non-reciprocal, tit-for-tat, and even satirically sarcastic, fall furniture. The other is to ignore each other, not to treat each other’s views as one thing. Still others