随着孩子的长大,不少家长会出现不同程度的焦虑,感觉孩子与自己的距离越来越远。尤其当孩子进入青春期后,亲子之间的关系很容易变得紧张,甚至无话可说。某高中学生小陈,染了一头黄发,中间又挑染几撮红头发,还喜欢穿新奇的服装,他知道这些为父母及老师所不容,但每当看到父母或长辈瞧见自己这般模样时的表情和表现出来的嗤之以鼻,他就洋洋得意,仿佛自己打了胜仗一样。家长一看到孩子又与以往不同的举动,就认为这是青春期的逆反行为,担心自己的让步就意味着对孩子的纵容,于是乎开始盲目压制。但是父母越压制,孩子越反抗,因为青春期的孩子常常会产生逆反心理。 As children grow up, many parents will appear to varying degrees of anxiety, feeling the distance between children and their own farther and farther. Especially when the child enters adolescence, the relationship between parent and child can easily become nervous, or even have nothing to say. Chen, a high school student, dyed yellow hair with a few red hair in his middle and a fancy dress. He knew that these were not acceptable to parents and teachers, but whenever he saw his parents or elders saw themselves He looked triumphant, as though he had won the war of words. As soon as the parents saw the child behaving differently, they considered it a retrograde act of adolescence. They worried that their concessions would mean conniving with their children and would therefore start to blindly suppress them. However, the more parents suppress, the more children rebel, because adolescent children often produce rebellious.