也许是因为叱责的弊害过度渲染,最近很多人都主张用“褒奖”来教育孩子。的确,想要激起孩子“主动做的意愿”,用夸奖是一种颇有效果的手段。但是从教养的角度来看,褒奖也会有各种各样的问题出现。其中一个是太常夸奖的弊害。特别是夸奖一旦成为习惯,就失去了它的效果。因此偶尔给孩子一些褒奖,就像在菜里加些适量的调味料一样,很容易增加他的兴趣。另外还会产生一个问题,太过于夸奖孩子时,孩子为了博得父母的欢心,常常装作一幅乖孩子的样子,但 Perhaps because of the excesses of fraud, many people have recently advocated using “compliments” to educate their children. Indeed, want to stir up children’s “willingness to do”, with praise is a very effective means. But from the point of recuperation, there are a variety of problems with rewards. One of them is too bad news for compliments. In particular, when a compliment becomes a habit, it loses its effect. So occasionally give the child some praise, just as adding some seasoning in the same amount of food, it is easy to increase his interest. In addition there will be a problem, too much praise children, children in order to win the favor of their parents, often pretending to be a good boy look, but