儿童发展心理的专家认为,孩子在自我成长中,最重要的是形成完整的自尊、自信、自立的心理能力,这比孩子的其他能力要重要十倍百倍。自尊是孩子的灵魂之杯,只有它完整时才能盛满爱、智慧和良知。父母无意中挫败孩子的自尊等于是给这个杯子戳了一个洞,不管孩子今后一生中多么努力与辛苦,他的灵魂之杯仍会是空空如也。试想,一个对父母叫板承认自己是坏孩子的孩子,他的心灵上早已是百孔千疮。 Children’s developmental psychology experts believe that the most important thing for children to grow up in self is to form a complete psychological ability of self-esteem, self-confidence and self-reliance, which is ten times more important than other children’s abilities. Self-esteem is the cup of the child’s soul, and it is full of love, wisdom and conscience only when it is complete. Parents inadvertently defeat the child’s self-esteem so pocketed a hole in the cup, no matter how hard and hard his future life, his cup of the soul will still be empty. Imagine, a child who confesses to his parents that he is a bad boy, his mind is already a hundred holes.