在生活中,大人错怪孩子的现象是屡屡发生的。比如大人在洗衣服时,孩子兴致勃勃地也凑过来“帮忙”,结果弄湿了衣服和鞋袜。于是大人就认为孩子是故意捣乱,甚至对孩子进行责骂和训斥:……一般说来,错怪孩子,不论其程度如何,都会使孩子感到委屈,在心理上笼罩上一层阴影,长此以往,还会留下心灵上的创伤,延缓孩子的成长。尤其是那些年龄幼小、性格倔强、不肯屈从的孩子,他们为了恢复心理上的平衡,往往会产生一些与大人的期望相反的逆向反应。所以,我们对错怪孩子的事不能掉以轻心。为了避免错怪孩子,造成大大小小的“冤假错案”,我们大人至少应当注意以下两点:一是要调查研究,不凭主观猜测和推理去给孩子“定案”;二是对孩子要给予真诚的理解。如上述洗衣服的例子,孩子本是一片好心,是在一种美好愿望的支配下的可贵行动,只是力不从心和“注意”的单向性,便成 In life, adult misconduct children occur frequently. For example, when an adult is washing his clothes, his child is enthusiastically also “helping” and as a result wet clothes and shoes and socks. So adults think the child is deliberate trouble, and even scolded and scolded children: ... ... In general, the wrong child, no matter how much, will make the child feel grievances, psychologically shrouded in a shadow over the long run, will Leave spiritual trauma, delay the child’s growth. Especially those who are young, stubborn, unwilling to subordinate children, in order to restore their psychological balance, tend to produce some contrary to the expectations of adults and reverse reactions. Therefore, we can not be taken lightly to the wrong child. In order to avoid wrongly blaming children and causing “unjust falsehoods” of all sizes, we at least should pay attention to the following two points: First, we must conduct investigations and studies so as not to “make a verdict” for the children based on subjective guessing and reasoning; second, we must give children Sincere understanding. As an example of the above-mentioned laundry, the child is a kindhearted, valuable move under the control of a good wish, but a lack of energy and unidirectional “attention”