《礼记》中说过:“未有学养子而后嫁者也。”意思是说,从来没有先学习教育子女的知识才出嫁的。就是说,自古以来,人们都认为只要有了子女,做了父母,就“自然而然”会教育子女。似乎教育子女没有什么学问,只要“能生”,就能教育。时至今日,仍还有一些人持有这种观念。其实,这是一种愚昧的陈旧的思想观念。这种观念不改变,教育中难免带有盲目性和主观随意性,很难获得成功。早在一百多年以前,英国资产阶级教育家斯宾塞在他的《教育论》一书中,就曾经指出:“子女的生与死、善与恶,都在于父母怎样教养他们。”他针对当时英国父母不学习教育子女科学知识的情况,严肃地指出:“如果一个商人毫无算术和簿记的知识斌开始经商,我们会说那是瞎干,而看他要得到惨痛的后果。或者一个人 “The Book of Rites,” said: “There are no adoptive son and married later.” The meaning is that never learn the knowledge of children before they get married. That is, since ancient times, people all thought that as long as they had children and parents, they would “naturally” educate their children. It seems that children have no knowledge of education, as long as they are able to live, they can educate. To this day, there are still some people who hold this notion. In fact, this is a stupid old ideas. This concept does not change, inevitably with education in the blind and subjective randomness, it is difficult to be successful. As early as a hundred years ago, the British bourgeois educator Spencer once pointed out in his book Educational Theory that “the birth and death of children, good and evil are all due to how their parents educate them.” When the British parents did not learn about the scientific knowledge of children at that time, he solemnly pointed out: "If a merchant has no knowledge of mathematics and bookkeeping began to do business, we would say that it is blind, and see him to get the painful consequences. Or a person