在一个追求个个成功、人人精彩的时代,许多家长为了给孩子成长增添一些精神动力,往往会说“你现在要忍受许许多多的苦,将来就可以享受多少多少的甜”这样的话。在他们心目中,作为现在的“此岸”一定是“苦”的。在这种预设的框架中,“此岸”是为“彼岸”服务的,“此岸”所做的一切都是暂时的忍耐,是手段,是过程,是草稿,只有“彼岸”才是幸福美好的,是目的,是终点,是作品。果真如此吗?事实上,儿童在 In an era of pursuing success and excellence for everyone, many parents tend to say, “You are going to endure so much bitterness now and how much sweet you will be able to enjoy in the future,” in order to add some mental impetus to their children’s growth. if. In their mind, as the present “this shore” must be “bitter”. In this presupposed framework, “this shore ” is for “this shore ” Everything done is temporary patience, is the means, the process, is the draft, only the “The other side ” is happiness, is the purpose, is the end, is the work. If so, in fact, children are there