有人的地方就有人际关系,相处不好就会对自己不利。人人觉得人际关系复杂,似乎人人都会是受害者。记得我有个亲戚在某市人民防空办公室(简称人防办)工作,有次他说他们单位不是“人防办”而是“防人办”。由此可见一斑。我的朋友圈里有位仁兄人际关系搞得很好,我向他讨教秘笈。他吐露“听而不论”四字使我受益匪浅。据他介绍,听要倾听,不论是什么人,跟他说话他都笑脸相迎,两眼注视对方而不斜视,不大轻易打断对方的说话,不时地还颔首点头……但在针对具体人的利益、是非时他从不轻易下结论。他说不是他没有主见、不是他城府太深,而是觉得谈论这些与自己 Someone has human relations, get along with bad will be against their own disadvantage. Everyone feels that interpersonal relationships are complex and it seems that everyone will be the victim. I remember I have a relative in a city People’s Air Defense Office (referred to as the Civil Defense Office) work, he said that one of their units is not “Civilian Defense Office ” but “anti-person Office ”. This is evident. My dear friends in my circle of friends did a very good job, I asked him to discuss the secret. He said that he has benefited greatly from the words “listening regardless”. According to him, listen to listen, no matter what people talk to him he was smiling face, eyes staring at each other without strabismus, not easily interrupted each other’s voices, from time to time also nodded ... but in the specific When people’s interests are wrong, he never concludes easily. He said he was not assertive, not too deep his city, but feel that these and myself