有一位家长说:“我的孩子做作业非常慢,一会儿看电视,一会儿吃东西,作业总要拖到10点多钟,怎么批评都不行,好不容易写快了一次,却字迹潦草,错误很多,只好再批评。每天为这事,搞得自己累,孩子也委屈。”事实上这位家长只是把着眼点放在了孩子做得不好的地方。孩子以前做作业慢,好不容易有一天写快了,家长看到的却是孩子字迹潦草的毛病,不假思索地一顿批评,把孩子的气又泄了。结果家长做的只能是无用功,甚至负功。在这些家长的头脑里,孩子的 One parent said: “My child did his homework very slowly. While watching TV and eating for a while, his homework always dragged over to more than 10 o’clock. No criticism was possible. Finally, it was easy to write once, but the writing was illegible. A lot of, had to criticize. Every day for this matter, get tired, children also grievance. ”In fact, the parents just focus on the children do not do well. Children used to do homework slowly, and finally one day to write fast, parents see it is the illegible handwriting of the child, without hesitation criticism, the child’s gas leaked again. As a result, parents can only do nothing, even negative power. In these parents’ minds, children’s