有些家长惩罚孩子的目的,不是为了帮助孩子改正错误,而是为了显示作为父母在家庭中至高无上的权威,想通过建立自己的权威来恐吓孩子少犯错误或者不犯错误,以便在教育孩子“听话”方面,达到一劳永逸的目的。教育孩子不可能有一劳永逸的方略,需要持久的耐心,不可能一蹴而就;退一万步说,即使达到了一劳永逸的听话效果,也不是件值得庆幸的事。因为孩子太听话,其自信心、创造力、冒险精神等方面都无疑受到极大的损伤,这种看似有效的家庭教育,其实是对孩子个性与创造力的无端扼杀。这种伤害将伴随着孩子的一生,并潜在地影响着孩子一 The purpose of some parents to punish their children is not to help them correct their mistakes but to show their authority as the supreme parent in the family and to deter them by making their own authority to make fewer mistakes or not making mistakes so as to educate their children to “listen” Aspects, achieve the purpose of once and for all. Education Children can not have a once and for all strategy, need long-lasting patience, can not accomplish overnight; step back and said that, even after reaching obedience once and for all, is not a good thing. Because children are obedient, their self-confidence, creativity, risk-taking spirit and other aspects are undoubtedly greatly damaged. This seemingly effective family education is in fact an end to the child’s personality and creativity. This damage will accompany the child’s life and potentially affect the child