在家庭生活中常有这样的事情:孩子正在兴致勃勃地玩玩具,这时成人出自某种原因把那件玩具拿走了,有的孩子哭闹几声也就作罢了,有的孩子却哭闹不休,大有不把玩具拿回来誓不罢休的劲头。许多父母较喜欢前一种孩子,认为这些孩子“乖”、“听话”,是好孩子,而觉得后一种孩子太“犟”,不听话。其实,从儿童心理学的研究成果来看,通常“犟”孩子自我意识强,好胜心强,并具有一定程度的韧 In the family life, there are often such things: the child is playing toys in good spirits, when the adult takes the toy for some reason, and some children cry for a few times, while others cry Endlessly, many do not take the toy back to take the momentum to give up. Many parents prefer the former kind of children, think these children “good”, “obedient” is a good boy, and think the latter kind of child too “displeased”, not obedient. In fact, from the psychology of children’s research results, usually “犟” children self-awareness, strong ambition, and has a certain degree of toughness