当我们误将自己的需求当成孩子的需求时,不但看不到孩子真实的需求,也会因为孩子的“需求”不符合我们的期待而失望、愤怒……与儿子久别重逢,我的期待落空了参加一个连续5天的培训,从早晨7点出门,到下午5点回家。对我这个工作时间相对自由的妈妈来讲,是与两岁半儿子第一次经历的连续、长时间的分离。从培训的前一天下午,我的情绪就有些低落,那是一种要与儿子长时间分别,混杂着愧疚、不舍、焦虑等多种成分 When we mistake our needs for the needs of our children, we can not only see the real needs of the children but also disappoint and anger our children’s “needs” not in line with our expectations.. Expect to fall to attend a continuous five-day training, go out from 7:00 in the morning until 5:00 pm to go home. To my mother, who has relatively free working hours, is the continuous and long-term separation from her first experience with her two-and-a-half year old son. From the afternoon before the training, my mood was somewhat depressed. It was a long time to be separated from my son, mixed with guilt, sadness, anxiety and other ingredients