家庭治疗师走进一个家庭,特别喜欢关注这个家庭可能存在的一些内部禁忌。我们会问孩子,家庭里有什么东西只能意会,不能交谈?我们常常会发现不同年龄的孩子与父母的交流有不同的忌讳。几乎所有家庭的交流内容都有或多或少的规定和限制,这些家庭限制实际上既代表着家庭内部的“游戏规则”和权利等级,也代表着家庭成员之间的心理距离。我们来看看这样一种情景:孩子快乐地回到家,兴奋地说:“爸!妈!我今天的物理考试拿了95分。”妈妈认真地说:“先别高兴,告诉我你班上的最好成绩是多少?”爸接着说:“要好好想想那5分为什么要丢。”孩子立即收藏住笑脸,躲进自己的小屋。这时,父母脸上才有了笑容,说:“我们的孩子还真不错。” 担心孩子骄傲而不敢公开地分享孩 The home therapist walks into a family and particularly likes to focus on some of the internal taboos that this family may have. We will ask children, what can be found only in the family, can not talk? We often find that children of different ages have different taboo with their parents. Almost all the family exchanges have more or less rules and restrictions. These family restrictions actually represent both the “rules of the game” and the level of rights in the family, as well as the psychological distance between family members. Let’s take a look at the scene where the child returns home happily and says excitedly: “Dad! Mom! I got 95 points in my physical exam today.” Mom said seriously: “Do not be happy and tell me What is the best grade in your class? ”Dad went on to say: “ Think about that 5 points to lose. ”The children immediately live smiling face, hide in their own hut. At this time, the parents had a smile on their faces and said: “Our children are really good.” "Worried about children being proud and afraid to publicly share their children