许多家长在教育孩子过程中,或多或少地会对孩子许诺。孩子只要答应家长的某一要求,便会任性地向家长提出或强求做一件事。一般情况下家长都会答应,并以说话算话来予以保证。殊不知这样的做法会使孩子更加计较和放任,并形成恶性循环,每做一件事都会习惯地提出一项要求。许诺孩子是家庭教育方法中的一个误区,也是导致孩子不良行为形成的原因之一。有经验的家长在教育孩子过程中会注意避开孩子这种任性现象,也不会轻易去满足孩子的这种讨价还价式的要求。对此,家长要注意以下几点: 首先,家长要求做的事要恰如其分,并让孩子明白完完全全是他们应该做的,不存在讨价还价和附带任何条件。其次是孩子完成家长要求或做完一件事,应及时给孩子正确评价,表扬或鼓励。第三,平时注意观察孩子的喜好,从培养孩 Many parents promise children more or less when they are educating their children. As long as the child complies with one of the parents’ requirements, he or she will voluntarily make or force one thing to parents. Under normal circumstances, parents will agree, and the words to be assured. Everyone knows that such a move will make children more accountable and let go, and the formation of a vicious circle, every thing will be a habit to make a request. To promise children to be a misunderstanding in the family education method is one of the reasons that lead to the child’s bad behavior. Experienced parents in the process of educating their children will pay attention to avoid this kind of wayward children, nor will they easily meet the child’s bargaining requirements. In this regard, parents should note the following: First, parents need to do just the right thing, and let the children understand exactly what they should do, there is no bargaining and any conditions attached. Followed by the child to complete the parents request or done one thing, the child should be timely evaluation, praise or encouragement. Third, usually pay attention to observe the child’s preferences, from training children