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生活中,由恋爱不成结仇冤、不择手段施报复的现象为数不少。究其原因,重要的一点就是对爱情缺乏清醒的认识,没有失败的思想准备。有些青年男女在恋爱初期就全身心地投入,互相许愿、发誓、赠送礼品、游山玩水等等。可是,当一方发现另一方并不是自己理想的伴侣时,便果断地中止关系,这本是一种明智的做法,也无可厚非。问题在于,提出中止的一方没有认真地考虑到对方的承受能力,用一句话、一个电话、一张纸条就宣布“拜拜”,这种一次性处理很易使身处热恋漩涡中的另一方形成逆反心理,酿成不该发生的悲剧。 有一个女孩向我讲述了她中断恋爱关系的过程。
In life, it is not a matter of revenge by love, revenge by unscrupulous measures. The reason, the important point is the lack of a clear understanding of love, there is no failure of the ideological preparation. Some young men and women in the early stages of love devoted themselves to each other wishing, swearing, giving gifts, sightseeing and more. However, when one party discovers that the other party is not his ideal partner, he decisively suspends the relationship. This is a wise and understandable practice. The problem is that the party who made the suspension did not seriously consider each other’s ability to bear one word and one phone call and one note declared “bye”. This one-time handling is easy to make the other party Formation of rebellious, leading to the tragedy should not happen. A girl told me about her process of breaking her relationship.