本文试通过一些生活中的礼貌现象来论证礼貌的相对性以及语境对于礼貌的影响。礼貌的相对性自身又表现为很多方面,比如语言礼貌和话语礼貌的矛盾以及在不同的文化和历史背景下人们对于礼貌的不同认知,在不同情景下礼貌言语的合适度等等。正因为礼貌具有相对性,所以人们很难脱离实际的语境而只通过言语的字面意思就判定其是否礼貌。 This article attempts to demonstrate the relative politeness and the impact of context on politeness through some politeness in life. The relativeness of politeness manifests itself in many aspects, such as the contradiction between verbal politeness and discourse politeness as well as people’s different recognition of politeness in different cultural and historical contexts, the appropriateness of politeness in different situations, and so on. Precisely because of the relative nature of politeness, it is very difficult for people to judge whether they are polite or not only by the literal meaning of words from the actual context.