从事了多年的家庭教育研究工作,接触了无数的学生和家长后,发现每一个问题孩子的背后都站着问题家长,或者说是不成熟的家长。一个人是否成熟和他的年龄,和他是否已经为人父母是没有太大关系的。重要的是他处理内在情绪的能力。我们知道家庭可以带给一个人很多的爱,让生命的伤痛得以修复和滋养,但也会带来很多的伤害。如果一个生理年龄已经成年的人却没有把自己的内在照顾好,带着在原生家庭里受到的诸多心灵创伤去和一个人结婚,他在经 After years of family education research and contact with innumerable students and parents, he found that every child behind the problem is standing with the problem parents, or immature parents. A person’s maturity and his age, and whether he has a parent or not is not too much. What matters is his ability to handle his inner emotions. We know that families can bring a lot of love to one person, to repair and nourish the wounds of life, but also bring a lot of harm. If a man of his mature age does not take good care of himself and marries a man with many traumatic wounds in his native family,