在教育心理咨询中,我常遇到这样几个有关亲子关系的问题:一是父母的话在孩子心目中没威信,有时对着吵;二是孩子跟父母不知心,有话不跟父母说。随着孩子年龄的增长,提出这类问题的家长越来越多。怎样才能使孩子觉得父母可亲又可敬呢? 不久前,北京海淀区某小学五年级某班家长们进行了一次探讨。会前我先以问卷的形式收集了孩子们的意见。所问的问题是:(一)你的家庭温暖吗?为什么?(二)你爱你的爸爸妈妈吗?为什么?(三)你有心里话爱跟爸爸妈妈说吗?为什么? In educational counseling, I often encounter several problems related to parent-child relationship: First, the words of parents in the minds of children no prestige, sometimes in noisy; second, the children do not know their parents, there are words do not tell their parents. As children grow older, there are more and more parents raising such issues. How can we make our children think their parents are dear and respectable? Not long ago, a class fifth-grade parents in Haidian District in Beijing conducted a discussion. Before the meeting, I first collected the children’s opinions in the form of a questionnaire. The questions asked are: (1) Is your family warm? Why? (2) Do you love your father and mother? Why? (3) Do you have the heart to love with Mom and Dad? Why?