日前,一个微友把我当成了恋爱专家,询问我爱情到底是什么?是该嫁给一个爱她的人,还是该嫁给一个她爱的人?这个话题,让我想起了很久前看过的一则相似的禅语。我对她说:如果心贪,就嫁给那个爱你的人;如果心纯,就嫁给另一个你爱的人。她惊讶地问,这个有区别吗?我告诉她,区别大了去了,陷入三角恋的人往往会陷入这种悖论而难以自拔。 Recently, a micro-friend took me as a love expert, asked me what love is in the end is it to marry a person who loves her or to marry a woman she loves this topic, reminds me of a long time ago read A similar Zen language. I said to her: If the heart is greedy, marry the one who loves you; if you are pure, marry another you love. She asked in astonishment, was there a difference? I told her that the difference went away, and those caught in love triangle often fell into this paradox and could not extricate themselves.