不少家长开心时会和孩子玩一玩、逗一逗,温言细语,心情不好时就态度粗暴、拿孩子撒气。而在孩子成长过程中,当絮叨无效或“婆婆妈妈”令孩子逆反之后,一些“懒得废话”的家长就会诉诸暴力。这不是一种健康的亲情模式。虽有爱,却是溺爱;虽有教育,却是一种训导甚至指斥。多少年来,不少家长习惯如此,又岂知这会在幼小生命的心里种下不平等相待的种子,让孩子们潜移默化地认为,自己也可以这样对待他人。 Many happy parents and children will play a playful, funny, terse language, bad mood on the attitude of rude, take the child letting. In the process of children’s growth, some parents who “too lazy to talk nonsense” will resort to violence after being invalidated or “mother-and-daughter” reversing their children. This is not a healthy model of affection. Although love, it is spoiled; though education, it is a discipline or even denouncement. For so many years, many parents have become accustomed to this practice, and have they noticed that this will plant inequitable seeds in the hearts of young children so that they can subtly perceive themselves and treat others like this?